sharing Smiles . cherishing Wisdom . creating Memories
12th April 2015. Brilliant smiles, happy laughter, soulful stories, words of wisdom, misty eyes, unshed tears; and a room full of young hearts bursting out in the gardens to play, dance, sing and enjoy life.
The Conception of Young Hearts
Arvind & Nutan Goel shared with me their plans of organizing a full day trip to Manesar, inviting all the senior relatives, friends and acquaintances they had the pleasure of knowing. They gave me the honour of joining in the trip, helping them plan and facilitate the day. I was mesmerized by their feelings, thoughts and the desire to create such an experience for people they knew or may not knew till then, an experience that might become one of the most cherished memory for everyone. Arvind and Nutan’s excitement caught on and we embarked on a journey of creating an experience unknown to the invitees and even to us.
Apprehensions gripped my thoughts when I sat down to plan the day for a group of about 60 people, whose age in the list given to me was ranging between 60-78. I felt immature and inadequate to facilitate the event for a room full of people whose wisdom and learnings of life was far beyond mine. Before I move forward, I would share that I have lived a very eventful and adventurous life in my 36 years. The lessons life has taught me have been far prudent than the ones I learnt during my years in Texas A&M University and Indian School of Business. And on the morning of 12th April 2015, I sat out on my own quest for knowledge, wisdom and lessons of life. The journey in the bus to Manesar and my interactions with a few endearing faces, wise eyes and welcoming gestures were enough to fill me with the energy and zeal I needed for the day. When I stood in front of more than 60 pair of eyes in the seminar hall of Manesar Resort, I knew they had put their trust in me for the whole day and I was filled with gratitude.
We started on a note where we felt as if we had known each other since years and soon we realized that there had been a serious mistake with the list; the listed age was incorrect, each member of the group was five years younger than me ! It was not only a happy surprise for everyone but more so for me, as the youngest person in the group was 19 and she was just 5 years younger than me. Imagine !!!!! my happy surprise.
A Forever Friend
Soon I had a new group of friends and we each had a new friend of our own, a friend with whom if we are all faithful, will always make sure that we always have a smile right on our fingertips. I could hear the sound of falling years, amidst the happy laughter and cheerful ‘hellos’.
We the young smart ones, the organizers and volunteers, had planned a couple of activities thinking that maybe we will not be able to get everyone to play and participate. We were soon put to shame, when after just a little bit of coaxing we had everyone on their toes. Jumping with excitement to participate in the lemon race and then the musical partners (a version of musical chairs suggested by one of our happy volunteers). In every turn, we had more bright faces waiting to participate then we called for; the young hearts were full of eagerness, their feet forgetting the aches of old age, their bodies filled with the vigour they had bottled up. A bunch of impatient kids wanting to play and win. The winners were not the youngest of the lot from the list, but the ones who had shed the maximum years in the seminar hall before stepping out in the lawns.
Lemon race or musical partners – there were no barriers. Sarees, slippers, aching knees, sore feet, age, lethargy; there were none to be found. All we could see was happy hopping young souls, laughing with delight, pulling each other’s legs and screaming on their victories.
Inside the halls, we were all still spirited with our cheeks blushing with the happy rush of blood. The accomplished people sitting on the round tables in front of me, with their faces beaming with excitement had a lot to share. And we were eager to listen.
A Forever Love
The expressions became easier and the feelings found their way to words. The melodious rendition of ‘chupa lo yun dil mein pyaar mera ke jaise mandir mein lau diye ki’, by Asha Kanchan gave the environment a tender warmth, when she dedicated the song to her soulmate of more than 50 years, Mr. Rajendra Kanchan. She said that his simplicity won her heart. In return, he said that his world belonged to her and his smile stood witness to his confession.
We saw the contrasts of expressions of love. On the one hand, we had couples like the Kanchans and Jains singing for each other; and on the other hand we had the subtle acceptance from Mahesh Sir as he confessed that saying I love you, may not be the only way of expressing his love for his wife. And when asked what was the one thing that his wife did for him that makes him realize her love for him, he answered, “mujhe to lagta hai sote jaagte mere hi bare mein sochti hain, aur main bhi unhe hi sochta hun.” The most beautiful confession of love I have heard in the most subtle form.
Power of Emotions
Emotions were being accepted and we were not uncomfortable with our emotions. I mention this fact here, because I want to share with you while you are reading this, what I shared with my group of young and fun friends on 12th April 2015. Emotions and feelings are a part of human constitution, and it is very important for us to accept them and express them. Knowing you love your parents, your spouse, your children and your family is enough, but it is also important for you to express your love. An expression of love can alter your relationships, can ease your discomforts and open up channels of communication.
As I said, it seemed too immature to talk about their achievements in life to a group of people who had raised a generation and were an inspiration to the next. Instead I had decided to ask them something that will help us put our minds to peace and know what it was that mattered most to them and could possibly make them happier in this phase of life. The generation to which I belong – we are children and we are parents. Every day, we struggle with the fear and doubts of being a parent, whether we are doing enough and accurate for our children. At the same time, we keep wondering if we have liven up to the expectations of our parents and have we ever been able to make them proud. And this is exactly what we asked our guests to share.
Moments of Pride
The glow and warmth on the faces of my friends of a few hours with a bond of years, was surreal. I did not even have to hear their answers to know how proud they were of their children. Their personalities, their attitude towards life and their values were a proof that they had given the best to their children. The pride on their faces and their smiles in the current moment, were witness that their children were their priceless treasures. And here I share with you some heart-warming incidents that my friends shared with me, moments that made them feel accomplished as a parent and proud of their children.
Please visit our Facebook Page ‘Young Hearts’ for more pictures and to witness just a few of the gratifying stories shared by my young friends whose actions defied their age and whose smiles belied the challenges of life. Sharing this with you was a responsibility so you know you have been doing the right things. There is nothing more gratifying then a parent feeling proud of their child.
The day was a divine amalgamation of fun, feelings and fulfilment.
The organizers, Mr. & Mrs Goel deserve a long and cheerful round of applause for their efforts and especially the caring thoughts behind organizing an event like this. The volunteers did a wonderful job of cheering, assisting and unifying the activities. The greatest reward for me, were the hugs, the blessings and the tremendous amount of love showered by all the senior guests. I am grateful that life gave me an opportunity to meet such endearing respectful people and share with them a day that I will cherish throughout my life. Each hug, each blessing and each praise will remain with me forever. I will always be their friend, who many of them were calling “Smiley”.
I wish them all fun, healthy and gratifying lives. May they inspire generations and enjoy every moment of their lives with their life partners, families, friends and the Smiling friend at the tip of their index finger.
A soul humbled to the core with your acquaintance,